By the time I was 14 I noticed both boys and men staring at me in a different way. My red hair, emerald eyes and alabaster skin had made me a kind of fetish object. I remember waiting in line at Starbucks wearing my high school volleyball uniform, and overhearing two middle aged businessmen snicker behind me, "I wonder if the carpet matches the drapes."
"Red stands for passion and when a man sees a redhead he will think he is dealing with a woman who won't mess around, and gets straight to the point when it comes to sex." Or so said a German researcher back in 2006 (See the article here), which is coincidentally the year I first started having sex. His study showed that redheads statistically have more sex than blondes or brunettes.
Now anyone who knows me would agree that my libido is higher than average and my hair is bright copper red, but are the two really linked? Some have suggested that red hair (and high libido) is linked to the Neanderthals. (See article here). Redheads also, apparently need more anesthetic during surgery...but I stray off topic. I know that I became aware of my sexuality and the power it conferred at a young age, and that by age twelve I already had an extremely vivid and orgasmic fantasy life, even though none of my friends did. I was never sexually abused by an adult, but I can't help wondering if all the male attention triggered my sexual response in a way that was different from other girls.
So, to put a fine point on the question, is my innate horniness really a genetic difference linked to my red hair or is it the result of societal conditioning - the expectations of a society that equates the color red with sex? Statistics on online dating sites show that "Men with red hair are less likely to get responses than those with other colored hair." (See article here) Which suggests that men and women feel differently about the sexual attractiveness of red hair. I wonder if anyone has done a study of the libidos of redheaded men?
I think (based on no scientific data other than my own limited experience) that redheads of both sexes have higher sex drives but to men that higher sex drive is exotic and exciting (statistically speaking) while to women a higher sex drive is neither more or less exciting (statistically speaking). I'd even go so far as to say that for women red hair (like a balding head) is just not as aesthetically pleasing to a majority of women.
But in general, yes, I think fiery redheads are hornier than blondes or brunettes. :)
Photograph by Leland Coleman
I'm not sure why you added a picture of a girl who looks just like you...but isn't you. Do you want people to think that's you in the picture?
ReplyDeleteAlso, don't you think the redhead thing is just a stereotype?
Why did you post as "Unkown," Emma. It's obvious from your tone that its you. :)
ReplyDeleteNo, I actually think that its not a stereotype, which is why I linked to the study showing that redheaded women actually have more sex.
Eventually, I'll put my artwork with my blogs but I just haven't taken pictures of my portfolio yet.
I hadn't filled out my profile yet. That's why it posted as "unknown." Maybe we need to give each other a break. (insert happy emoticon here)
ReplyDeleteMy fiancee while tolerant of my high libido actually researched why I am always interested in sex more than any other man she had been with. If I was able to have my way we would likely have sex about 20 times a week but its usually limited to 6 or so. So yes from my personal experience red headed men also have an extremely high sex drive. When I give it some thought I feel it is an instinctive urge at self preservation as we are such a small population.
ReplyDeleteI think people have a natural setting of "orgasms a week" needed to feel fulfilled. For some it's set high (20) and for some it is set very low (1 a month), but this is all within the range of healthy sexuality. I wish people were more understanding of those of us who are at the extreme ends of the spectrum. There's nothing wrong with us...we were just built that way.
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